What does being the best version of yourself mean to you?

‘Your ultimate goal in life is to become your best self. Your immediate goal is to get on the path that will lead you there’

~ David Viscott


Here at Bestselfology, we cover many topics, but I’m aware that everyone’s journey is different and being your best self can look completely different for each person.

Over the last 4 or 5 years, I have been on a personal journey of becoming the best version of myself. During that time, I have studied extensively what this means to me and how to achieve it. I have become extremely clear on what is important to me, and what I am aiming for. The research I have carried out has helped me to identify what makes me happy and what makes me unhappy. Due to this, I can now make decisions about what I should do both more and less of. I have also become clear about where I want to spend my time and what I want to focus my energy on.

For me, being my best self is not something to be ticked off. It’s not that I can say I have now achieved it and I can stop and move onto the next thing. Rather, it is part of an ever continuing journey of learning and self discovery.

As a result of all my research, I am pretty clear about what my best self looks like. In addition, I am equipped with the tools to achieve the results I want. This is something that I continually work on implementing and perfecting.

If you are not fully clear on what being your best self looks like for you, I have 2 recommendations you can use to try to achieve greater clarity:

1) Create your own personal Book of Life

This was one of the most powerful exercises I have ever done. This document captures all your thoughts, beliefs and principles that you want to live your life by. It is an ever growing document that you can constantly refer back to and update. Creating your own Book of Life helps you to arrange your thoughts about how you view the world. It captures all your beliefs in one place. It can be powerful in reminding you what is important to you. The way is it split into many subsections supports you to analyse each aspect of your life and identify what is important to you in each area.

2) Identify your role models

You can learn so much from amazing people. I have a number of people that I look up to and learn from. I follow people’s blogs, listen to their podcasts and spend time observing the people I come into contact with in my life. Many of my ideas have been borrowed from other people and then tried out on myself.

I am constantly learning from others. Since I spend much time researching personal development, I come across many people that I admire and as a result have identified many role models. Some of the people I have learnt the most from are:

Tim Ferris and his 4 Hour Work Week podcast

Gretchen Rubin’s books and blog

Laura Vanderkam’s books and blog

Tony Stubblebines CoachMe VIP Programme

These are some of my role models and the people I most admire and learn from. Identifying your own role models should provide you with inspiration and ideas about how you can become your best self. Following their journeys and listening to their advice can result in helping you to clarify what is important to you in your own journey of becoming the best version of yourself.


I’d love to hear from you in the comments below about what being the best version of yourself means to you and any role models that inspire you in this jounrey.

1 Comment

  1. Pie June 20, 2017 at 7:23 am #

    Brilliant and inspiring article as always Mel. Thank you.

    Read a quote today that resonates with me…helps motivate me….”Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” by Jim Rohn.

    To try to sustain being our best selves (because we all go through ups and downs and that’s totally normal…and should be)…we need to create sustainable habits to get us there.

    Would love to hear your thoughts!


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