Do you ever look at other people and think how unfair it is that they seem to always get what they want?

I’m a strong believer that you make your own luck and you create your own opportunities. Getting what you want can be tough, but it is possible.

I’ve attached 10 techniques you can follow, to help you get what you want:

1) Know what you want

It seems obvious, but if you don’t know what you want, how do you expect to get it? You need to dedicate time thinking about this so you are really clear what you’re aiming for.

2) Write it down

Somehow writing things down solidify them and make them more real. When you have written your goals down you commit to them more. You may also find it makes them clearer in your mind.

3) Make a plan

Break down what you want into a steps. Depending on what you’re aiming for, there may be quite a few steps to get there. Plan out what actions you need to take to help you achieve what you have your sights on. Identify any obstacles you might come up against and mitigate against them.

4) Ask

The old saying ‘if you don’t ask you don’t get’ is so true. To give yourself the best chance of success, you need to ask. If you want something, ask for it. It might be that easy! Think about how you ask. Make a passionate pitch, be positive.

5) Persevere

Don’t ask once and then if the answer is no, give up. Be persistent. You may have to use your powers of persuasion.

6) Know when to pause

Don’t be too relentless, you don’t want to alienate those around you . You might need to ease up for a bit, then go back to it when the time is right. Plant a seed, let it grow, then go back to close the deal after some time has passed.

7) Share 

Tell others what it is you want. Share it with anyone who’ll listen. Sharing it will make the desire clearer in your mind, it will help you be determined to get it. You never know, you might share it with the one person who can really help you out.

8) Don’t apologise

If you’re asking for something, don’t make excuses or apologise. Be confident about you want. No apologies necessary.

9) Highlight whats in it for them

When you are trying to get what you want, there may be a benefit for someone else. Highlighting this can be useful as it can create a win-win situation.

10) Work hard